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One Sided Sex?
Dear Hot & Heavy
I through the years since I came out I have met many a man. Some of them have in mind only one thing - finding a way to get their rocks off without satisfying anybody in return. I have come across some men that are this way. I met a man, who lives not far away I have gone very slowly with him. I have been very patient, and have not rushed into anything with him. My only frustration with him is, he wants me to satisfy his sexual needs, but he always gives an excuse why he cannot mine. I have done my best to not come on strong, and I have backed off on that. I suspect he is only having one sided sex to protect himself from getting anything he doesn't want. I have only practiced safe sex with others, or have done without. I have had only safe contact with him, but he will not satisfy my needs. I am in one heck of a pickle, because I do not know what to do about this. I have only been firm with how I feel, that relationships, and friendships are not one sided things. It is give and take on the behalf of both parties. Can you both offer any suggestions on how to deal with this situation? One Sided Man
Hot: Now, I fully believe in servicing my man, but c’mon! I’ll scratch your back, you f%@k my brains out, it’s only fair.
Heavy: Hmmm. Spoken like a true power bottom. But enough about the back seat of your car, what rest areas do you frequent again?
Hot: I’ll have you know I’m listed as a tour attraction – this is one ride you don’t want to miss!
Heavy: Anyway, back to our reader. Are we talking FB? Husband material? Or what? If he’s just a trick – it’s time to move on. If he’s serious husbear material, put your cards on the table. You have needs, too! If he’ not willing to compromise, you’ve got bigger problems overall! Hasn't he ever heard of quid pro quo?
Hot: And that one sided sex thing for protection, oh please! Tops aren’t at risk for STD’s and HIV? C’mon, we know better. It sounds like a lame excuse to me. Do you want to have this be your sex life for the rest of your life? If not, something’s gotta change either he delivers or you walk!
Heavy: exactly!
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